Respectfully, I disagree..

A workplace conversation between parties that don't agree should be easy and comfortable — shouldn't it?

Open, reflective communication is wonderful.
Conflict is healthy. 

Unfortunately, many workplace relationships are influenced by power, and healthy conflict can soon be flipped if one (or both) parties feel they may have something to lose.

I used to often find myself avoiding disagreements, and consequently, I avoided confronting conversations 'just in case' they were unpleasant or used against me. What a shame! By avoiding disagreements for fear of disappointment I was also avoiding good, healthy conflict, and we all know that good, healthy conflict drives innovation and innovation drives business growth.

I don't really know what changed for me, perhaps experience, perhaps wisdom and age or perhaps I just finally respected myself enough to bring myself to the table? I started taking a deep breath and calmly speaking my mind — and it worked — my contributions were valued, and I was more respected for speaking up. I don't often need that deep breath anymore, I choose to respectfully disagree, and I now embrace (and promote) healthy workplace conflict.

If you work with someone who is lacking the confidence to speak up; support them, help them to realise how much they have to contribute.

If you work with someone whose fear of losing power causes them to intimidate others and not 'allow' conflict; encourage them to be inclusive.  Remind them that open, reflective communication is wonderful and to gain respect you should give it.

If your workplace is struggling with unhealthy power imbalances and toxic workplace relationships, contact us; Respect at Work can help.